Happy New Year Everyone!!! I’m very excited to show back up in your inbox. Before getting started, I would be remiss to not mention all the madness taking place in this country. It really feels like America has lost her mind, and many of us are caught in the middle of what is literally cultural war. We are all directly impacted by what has happened at the capitol, what has happened in this administration, and what continues to happen when White Privilege takes the stage and rears its ugly head. However, I digress as this is a much heavier topic NOT for today’s newsletter. For now, I will leave it there, but know that I will most likely revisit this in the near future.
As I mentioned the last time I showed up in your inbox, things will be changing with my newsletter. I want to take a moment to talk about what those changes will look like over the next few months. For those of you who like to get to the meat of things, I have made it very clear when the actual newsletter topic starts. I have marked that section appropriately “Newsletter Starts Here,” so you can easily find it. However, I strongly encourage you to be patient and read these announcements so that you know AND understand why (and how) things will be changing with my newsletter.
Change #1 – Friday’s Cultural Tips may be eliminated.
I must admit that I may have bitten off a little more than I could chew when I decided to do weekly cultural tips. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE writing content for you all, but I also have to admit how much time and effort it takes to produce this content, all in the midst of juggling mommyhood, a business, and just plain old life. So with that said, I will see how things go with trying to continue doing weekly cultural tips, but please know that the cultural tips of my newsletter subscription may be reduced or eliminated over time.
Change #2 – Shorter newsletters and introduction of minimal fees.
Speaking of time and effort, I also have to admit that I am at a place with my newsletters where I want to begin to recognize the value of my voice and the information I share with you all. As a Black woman doing this work, I am always mindful of how much of myself I put out there and being intentional to make sure that I am not slipping into devaluing my work which often happens within my culture. So, over the next few months you will notice that my newsletters will be shorter. They will still include helpful cultural information, but at some point I will offer more information on the monthly topic for a small fee. Again, you will still receive helpful content from me FOR FREE, you will simply need to pay a tiny fee to get more information on a particularly topic.
I feel like this is a happy medium, because I wanted to find a way to continue providing information to many of you who have been with me since day one, while also honoring myself as a Black woman doing this work and providing you all with helpful and valuable information. Over the years many of you have stated how much you appreciate and value my work, so I am confident that you all will support this decision and stage of growth that I am entering into with my newsletters.
As of now, these are the only changes that you can expect to see in my newsletter over the next few weeks/months. I plan on making these changes gradually in hopes that it does not come as a huge shock to you all. The most noticeable change you may recognize is the shortening of newsletters and the frequency of my Friday’s Cultural Tips. I am really being intentional in 2021 on spending time writing longer content for my book, which I really would like to come out sooner rather than later (hint, hint).
From the bottom of my heart I thank you all so much for your understanding and support over the years. I’m excited to be on this new journey with my newsletters and writings and I can’t wait to see how things continue to evolve over the years.
Newsletter Starts Here. . .
With so much going on in the world, I felt it would be important to talk about cultural wounds and how vital it is to protect them. You may be asking: What is a cultural wound? It is literally what it sounds like, a wound that you have based on a cultural experience. Just like we have wounds from accidental falls or a childhood bike ride that took a turn for the worst, we have cultural wounds from cultural experiences and interactions that we have been a part of. Our cultural wounds are often left open and are a bit harder to heal than the average wound. Why? Because we are often faced with situations that remind us of our old cultural wounds, causing them to resurface and creating a sore spot. This is why it is important to protect our cultural wounds at all costs.
Protecting our cultural wounds is not easy, especially during the times we are currently experiencing in this country. If you have experience with racism, oppression, and discrimination, I am pretty sure that lately you are feeling really triggered and on the edge. If you have an experience of being viewed as just another racist white person, even though that is not your truth, I am sure you are also on the edge and triggered right now. The truth of the matter is, these days we are ALL triggered and on the edge, because these are very triggering and edgy times we are in. Bringing me back to my point. . . Protect your cultural wounds.
I have found it helpful to reduce my engagement in what I take in and/or participate in. I have tried to steer clear of the news and all the information taking place on what happened at the capitol riots. Why? Because every time I hear about it, or talk about it, I am reminded of just how true the statement is from Jacob Blakes father a few months ago: “We have two justice systems” in this country. For me, I cannot allow myself to be repetitively reminded about something that I have to live everyday. It’s overly stimulating. So in that realm, I protect my cultural wounds by disengaging from taking in too much information.
Additionally, I don’t engage in many conversations about racial injustice, or cultural awareness, or anything else along those lines outside of the work that I do. Again, if I continuously engage in those conversations, it becomes a feeling of being hyper-aroused 24/7 because of the nature of these conversations. Because of what is happening in our country (and around the world for that matter), I make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of deep conversations around cultural awareness, sensitivity, and injustices when I am not in the capacity of doing cultural awareness work.
Now I ask you: What cultural wounds do you have? Are you making efforts to heal them? Or, are you continuing to expose the wound? What will you do to protect your cultural wounds so that you can effectively engage in this cultural work? Until February. . .